Understanding a "freind"

[Fluke]

I have known a local female now for ten years and her behavior has always been erratic , spontaneous and irregular .

I was looking up what constitutes being a psychopath and She ticked nearly every box . 

How many boxes would your friend tick ?

 

 

• Glibness/superficial charm

• Grandiose sense of self-worth

• Need for stimulation/proneness to boredom

• Pathological lying

• Conning/manipulative

• Lack of remorse or guilt

• Shallow affect (i.e., reduced emotional responses)

• Callous/lack of empathy

• Parasitic lifestyle

• Poor behavioral controls

• Promiscuous sexual behavior

• Early behavioral problems

• Lack of realistic, long-term goals

• Impulsivity

• Irresponsibility

• Failure to accept responsibility for one's own actions

• Many short-term marital relationships

• Juvenile delinquency

• Revocation of conditional release (from prison)

• Criminal versatility (i.e., commits diverse types of crimes)

 

[Faraday]

Never mind all that, have you...err...known her yet?

 

 

 

[dmacarelli]

So, why is she still your friend? The beautiful thing about friendship, is that it is a completely voluntary relationship. There is no compulsion. Even if you have known someone for decades, the friendship has to continue to be of value to both of you, in order for it to be meaningful, and justify it's existence. Friendships are living, breathing things, and they evolve, or devolve over time.

Perhaps, it is time to be a bit more discriminating in picking and choosing your friends, and be more kind to yourself? Is this person worthy of your friendship?

[Fluke]

2 minutes ago, Faraday said:

Never mind all that, have you...err...known her yet?

Are you asking whether I have had sex with her ?

If so, just ask . 

[Faraday]

1 minute ago, Fluke said:

Are you asking whether I have had sex with her ?

If so, just ask . 

Did you have sex with her?

[birdman]

OP,did you meet her while sitting on a bench?

sorry.

[Fluke]

2 minutes ago, Faraday said:

Did you have sex with her?

Those issues are things that I don't like to discuss on public forums 

[gummy]

8 minutes ago, Fluke said:

Those issues are things that I don't like to discuss on public forums 

But you were happy stating in an earlier post   that you had sex with a married lady so perhaps you are applying double standards here ?

[Fluke]

2 minutes ago, gummy said:

But you are were happy stating in an earlier post   that you had sex with a married lady so perhaps you are applying double standards here ?

No I didnt state that in another thread . 

Once again, you are wrong about something 

[gummy]

5 minutes ago, Fluke said:

No I didnt state that in another thread . 

Once again, you are wrong about something 

Oh dear now you seem to forget what you posted last month. Never mind we all forget things sometimes

 

[Faraday]

15 minutes ago, Fluke said:

Those issues are things that I don't like to discuss on public forums 

Oh...I see ...a bit like:

"A lady doesn't kiss & tell"

[gummy]

3 minutes ago, Faraday said:

Oh...I see ...a bit like:

"A lady doesn't kiss & tell"

Of course possibly if people suffer from Alzheimer's they couldn't remember anyway if it was a lady or lady boy  

[Fluke]

6 minutes ago, Faraday said:

Oh...I see ...a bit like:

"A lady doesn't kiss & tell"

Why do you want to know whether I had sex with her or not ?

[Fluke]

33 minutes ago, dmacarelli said:

So, why is she still your friend? The beautiful thing about friendship, is that it is a completely voluntary relationship. There is no compulsion. Even if you have known someone for decades, the friendship has to continue to be of value to both of you, in order for it to be meaningful, and justify it's existence. Friendships are living, breathing things, and they evolve, or devolve over time.

Perhaps, it is time to be a bit more discriminating in picking and choosing your friends, and be more kind to yourself? Is this person worthy of your friendship?

Sort of a family connection , kind of stuck with it 

[Faraday]

6 minutes ago, Fluke said:

Why do you want to know whether I had sex with her or not ?

I don't really. But seeing as you posted a preliminary diagnosis, I thought it was your kind of foreplay.

Anyway, calm down Kh Fluke. It's all harmless banter.

[ExpatPattaya]

49 minutes ago, Fluke said:

• Pathological lying

• Conning/manipulative

• Lack of remorse or guilt

• Callous/lack of empathy

No one should befriend anyone with just these 4 traits.   

[ExpatPattaya]

9 minutes ago, Fluke said:

Sort of a family connection , kind of stuck with it 

You are Thai?  Thai family connection?

No such thing as being stuck with family in my experience unless married or a parent, but Mai pen rai

[gummy]

9 minutes ago, ExpatPattaya said:

You are Thai?  Thai family connection?

No such thing as being stuck with family in my experience unless married or a parent, but Mai pen rai

Perhaps in the real world reality that is true, but some have difficulty accepting what is real and what is imagination perhaps ?

[Fluke]

3 minutes ago, gummy said:

Perhaps in the real world reality that is true, but some have difficulty accepting what is real and what is imagination perhaps ?

Maybe , but lets find out whether you are right or not or whether as per usual, you are wrong again . 

   What is "real" and what is "imagination" and what I have "difficulty accepting"? 

Once again , you have no idea what you are talking about and make it up as you go along 

[Bluesofa]

8 minutes ago, Fluke said:

Maybe , but lets find out whether you are right or not or whether as per usual, you are wrong again . 

   What is "real" and what is "imagination" and what I have "difficulty accepting"? 

Once again , you have no idea what you are talking about and make it up as you go along 

Spontaneous sounds much nicer.

[Faraday]

I get it now...it's the 'Sunday morning pick an argument time'.

Give it a rest, Flukey ol' chap...na?

 

[gummy]

6 minutes ago, Faraday said:

I get it now...it's the 'Sunday morning pick an argument time'.

Give it a rest, Flukey ol' chap...na?

Maybe this is the problem ? 

 

 

[Fluke]

9 minutes ago, Faraday said:

I get it now...it's the 'Sunday morning pick an argument time'.

Give it a rest, Flukey ol' chap...na?

I do think that gummy needs to stop making false allegations , if he does, I will need to contest those false allegations 

[Fluke]

43 minutes ago, ExpatPattaya said:

No one should befriend anyone with just these 4 traits.   

Being bought up in the West , we have acceptance drummed into us , accepting other cultures without question otherwise you get accused of discrimination or racism 

[gummy]

48 minutes ago, Fluke said:

I do think that gummy needs to stop making false allegations , if he does, I will need to contest those false allegations 

Some people do not understand the underlying issue with memory loss as they get older . Especially when they accuse others of making false allegations. So just so that we may help you if possible let's start of with 3 questions.

1)  just for clarifications sake. You have never said that your girlfriend here was married ?

2)  You said yesterday in response to a reply regarding collection of covid samples by friends or neighbours once you return to the UK ,that you had not gone home for 12 years ? Do you wish to change that statement ?

3) You stated on the 9th Sept "that you went back to the UK recently after being away for 10 years. Do you wish to change that statement ?